TRAUMA
About Trauma & Trauma Counselling
There is a general misconception that one can only be “traumatised” by an extreme event. Trauma is the feeling you are left with after an extraordinary event, and the type of event is irrelevant.
Trauma is of course caused by extreme events such as violence, community violence, murder, sexual or physical abuse, serious car accident, natural disasters, living an extremely dangerous area/environment.
But public ridicule, sport injuries, sudden loss of a loved one, disintegration of a significant relationship, humiliating or deeply disappointing experience, bullying, repeated distress or neglect in childhood, diagnosis with a life threatening illness, inconsistent caregiving, verbal abuse, to provide some examples, are equally likely to leave one feeling insecure and emotionally or physically vulnerable.
A traumatic
event is really any experience which causes physical, emotional, spiritual, or
psychological harm. Experiences which
leave you feeling helpless, vulnerable, anxious, angry, depressed, powerless,
scared, numb, withdrawn, irritable, emotionally overwhelm, denial, guilt, insomnia,
or nightmares are traumatic events.
Trauma is our body’s natural response to an emotionally or physically dangerous experience.
Not everyone
who experiences a stressful event will develop trauma, some may experience
short term trauma, and others may experience long term effects.
It is entirely normal to experience temporary difficulty coping after exposure to a traumatic event, sometimes all one needs is a bit of time and self-care. But prolonged symptoms, that worsen over time, affect your ability to function in your daily life and relationships, are likely to be diagnosed as PTSD. Post traumatic stress disorder, PTSD, is a mental health condition that is triggered by a traumatic event.
Experiencing a traumatic event puts one at risk of developing mental disorders such as PTSD, addiction, depression, anxiety disorder, relationship difficulties, adjustment difficulties, emotional regulation, sexual difficulties, body images difficulties and many others, and if possible, one should seek to deal with the trauma.
Essentially trauma is encoded in our brains when the nervous system charges emotional and physical reactions during traumatic events with additional chemicals. As a result of this “hard coding” the vent becomes entrenched in an isolated part of our brain, disconnected from the part where we store language and memories, making it difficult to access and process. Often even long after the traumatic event is forgotten the painful emotions recur, inhibiting your ability to enjoy the present.
When one is in a deep trauma situation often you are not able to deal directly with what is happening. This is the biological defence mechanism. It takes time before your brain is fully able to access this. Childhood trauma is an example: an abused or neglected child has limited alternatives and often has to endure long trauma which is only dealt with as an adult because it is almost impossible to confront any sooner.
Different
people have different tolerances for traumatic events: two people who are
subject to the identical experience may have vastly different responses. Trauma and traumatic events are encompassing
terms that derive their meaning from the response of and individual to an
event.
Processing trauma can be extremely difficult and painful and can be made easier by turning to others for support and being provided with the time and opportunity to talk about and digest how you feel.
While some people have a network of friends or family that can help them in debriefing and unpacking trauma other people may not. In some instances, the nature of the trauma itself makes it difficult to discuss with someone familiar because you feel shameful or embarrassed in which case discussing with a counsellor can be helpful.
In some cases, processing trauma can even be re-traumatising as one delves back into the traumatic event/s that normally suppressed. The healing process is best facilitated by a professional because of the associated risks. Take the necessary time to select a trauma counsellor or psychologist to work with as it is essential that you feel comfortable, respected safe and well understood in order for the counselling process to be successful.
Psychological trauma has been studied resulting in the development of various effective treatments and approaches. It is important to note however that there is far less research regarding the psychological trauma that under-resourced communities experience, which is often severe and continuous.
Unfortunately, many people find
themselves living in violent and abusive environments exposing them to severe
repeated traumatic experiences. These
are incredibly difficult circumstances with which to address trauma as many are
essentially trapped in trauma including environments. Our primary instinct is that of survival and
it is not always feasible or possible to escape one’s circumstances. Often the purpose of counselling is to
empower oneself to set up the ideal conditions to liberate oneself from the traumatic
circumstances. There is an initial need
to build the support systems to reduce the vulnerability.
Trauma counselling (also referred to as trauma debriefing) is essentially
the healing process which assists you to deal with symptoms that you are stuck
with after a traumatic event. The goal
is essentially to resource you with the skills to cope with the traumatic event
and to enable you to heal to restore yourself to a state of being in which you
are able to feel thrive in life rather than simply surviving.
Trauma
counselling allows you to validate your emotions, assess your current coping
mechanisms (which may for example involve unhealthy habits such as substance
abuse), help to make sense of what has happened in your life, move away from
avoidance and suppressive behaviours, understand, recognise and integrate the traumatic
event into your life in a meaningful way and essentially unshackle you from the
past and allow you to live in the present and for the future.
Due to its
complexity and the fact that time is a contributor to healing, trauma
counselling is suited to long term counselling, undertaken slowly and in a safe
space.
There is no shame in seeking help, you are not alone!
